If you want to lead well, there’s no secret. Most leaders just miss one simple habit: showing appreciation.
It’s not fluff. It’s not optional. It makes others feel seen and valued. Genuinely appreciating people strengthens trust, boosts morale, and inspires better work. And the best part? It doesn’t cost a thing.
So, how do you lead with appreciation?
It’s simple. You first practice recognizing someone’s value and contribution, and then you make a habit of telling them, “Thank you”. Here are four practical ways to do that:
1. Recognize people by name.
Don’t say, “Great job, team.” Be specific. Call each person by name. This personal touch shows you see the person behind the work.
2. Recognize specific work.
People feel truly valued when you point out the details of their work. Simply telling them they did a good job isn’t enough. It’s better to say, “I’m proud of you for doing this specific thing.” Details matter!
3. Recognize great attitude.
In a world where poor attitudes are common, a great attitude stands out. When you point out someone’s passion or enthusiasm, it not only lifts them up, it energizes others too. This is how a positive team culture starts to grow.
4. Recognize extra effort.
Notice the people who go above and beyond. When you call out their extra effort, it makes them feel seen and it shows others what good work looks like.
Appreciation doesn’t have to be a big gesture. Sometimes it’s a quick conversation. Other times it’s a handwritten note or a public recognition in a team meeting. What matters is that you make it a regular part of how you lead.
Build the habit. Notice effort and attitude. Recognize perseverance. Encourage people to keep going. Like any good habit, it gets easier with practice.
So, where would you start? How can you build a culture where appreciation is routine?
Remember, start small. Start now.
The leaders who notice people are the ones others want to follow.
Excerpt taken from Daily Hope by Rick Warren.
Love this Mun-Wai, I completely agree with your fab post. I love the really listening for the name point at number one. It has proven a challenge to recall names of many of my dear global colleagues. A discovery for me was to ask them to spell their name phonetically for me in the chat. This took away my embarrassment if I could not replay it in my mind and store in my memory. It means I can start the vital process of connecting and building a trusted relationship. I help people with everyone who is confused with the pronouciation of Leahy for example Lee-Hee 🙏
That’s such a great practice, Trevor. Asking for the phonetic spelling not only helps you remember, but it shows genuine care and respect. I love how you’ve turned what could feel awkward into a trust-building moment.